Some couples think that their endless connection begins when big things happen in their lives. However, for relationships to survive challenging times, it requires the individuals to reflect on and realise the answer to an important question – what do you want in your life?

It’s not easy to think about the big things in life especially if we haven’t experienced them yet. But when we make time to evaluate our priorities and non-negotiables, we learn not to accept actions that fall below our standards. 

The big things you need to discuss with your partner

There are different topics that you need to discuss with your partner, and you need to discuss these before you move on to the next chapter of your life. These include the following:

Having kids or not having kids

We now live in a world where more and more couples opt to be childless. The reasons behind this vary but the usual ones are: financial concerns, they suffer from medical conditions, they don’t want the responsibility, or it’s just a conscious decision not to have any children.

Whether you want to have kids or not should be clear with your partner. Make sure that you are aligned with the same goals before stepping into a serious partnership.

Parenting styles

Our parenting style is often similar to how our parents raised us. Before you decide to have kids, talk about what parenting style you will adopt in the household. You won’t always agree with each other but a parenting style makes sure that both of you are on the right page and will not confuse your kids.

Financial matters (spending habits, investments, or debts)

Financial troubles are probably the common cause of separation. Handling your finances is no easy topic but if you get down to the nitty-gritty, it increases awareness regarding how you and your partner will manage financial matters.

For a harmonious relationship, it’s best to disclose all financial details. Determine your financial goals as a couple and how you’ll go about handling investments and paying debts.

How to resolve conflicts

You’ll have an idea about how your partner resolves conflict even though you two are still dating. If you decide to take things up a notch, lay down each other’s preferences for resolving conflict. Whatever you decide on, respect it and keep in mind that the end goal is for you to resolve the problem and stay committed to each other.

Faith

Faith is usually not discussed during the dating stage but when couples decide to walk into marriage, it becomes an important topic. You need to think about how you will raise a family if you come from two different religions and the faith values you will teach the children.

How do you gain clarity about what you want in life?

Now that you know some of the big things you need to discuss with your partner, it’s time to gain clarity about what you really want in life. This starts with knowing yourself; your values, abilities, goals, and your interests. 

You can create a vision board or a journal and write what you want to achieve as an individual and with your partner. If you don’t know how to start, talk to the people you look up to, your family, friends, and even experts who you think can be of great help.

Conclusion

As you go through the process of really knowing yourself and what you want, you uphold your standards in life. You show people that you have important values that can never be compromised. In return, you and your partner become more respectful towards each other and work on making the relationship successful.

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